When looking back on going out to dinner in Minnesota, my experience was usually a quick meal while having my face in my phone the entire time. Spain had a completely different dinner experience. Meals were longer and more conversation which surprisingly made it so much more fun. I thought I would become impatient at these long dinners, but they unexpectedly became one of the highlights of my trip. This cultural difference left me with a better understanding of the importance of sharing a meal with friends.
The food itself made good conversation at dinner inevitable
The shared meals concept that stems from the tapas culture in Spain made conversation with friends easy. On the other hand, it isn’t very common to share plates in America so it is easy to become stuck in your own world. Everyone taking food from a plate of shared paella is an example of how Spanish food allows for stronger human connections. This dinner structure makes sense since Spain is a collectivist culture that values relationships over individualism. I really appreciated this cultural change because I think it helped me make some great friends on this trip.

Longer dinners allowed for a more relaxed and intimate environment
In America, we would most likely complain if dinner took two hours, but in Spain this is something that is encouraged. I found this concept to be much more enjoyable than expected. There isn’t a strict schedule that you have to follow making the experience much more relaxing. You never see locals looking down at their phones since they truly see dinner as a time to build connections. Servers also don’t check in on you very often which at first seemed very odd to me. I realized that Spanish servers see this as interrupting the customers from important conversations. Erin Meyer explained that Spaniards trust based on personal relationships with others so I understand why these dinners can be so special. I was very surprised that I gained such a large appreciation for this cultural norm.

It is important to me to use aspects of Spanish dinners in the U.S.
I believe I was able to make some of the friendships I did on this trip because of how much we were able to get to know each other at dinner. It helped me understand how little Americans value utilizing situations to build connections. I recall laughing around the dinner table and telling stories while in Spain which doesn’t always happen in America. I have learned that I should be more present and willing to really get to know others. Appreciating the longer dinner culture in Spain was unexpected, but I am very happy I was able to enjoy my time with everyone because of it.




























